A common theme I hear is, “my life isn’t going the way I want it to, but I don’t know what to do. I feel like I’m stuck--how do I get unstuck?”
First you need to answer four questions. Second, I’ll give you a few simple ways to get back into the swing of things and make your life more dynamic.
ARE YOU FEELING CONSTRAINED OR TRAPPED IN ANY AREA OF YOUR LIFE?
Limiting tribal beliefs can leave you feeling trapped and stuck even when you have tried everything you know to change your situation. For example, a belief that “if you don’t have something nice to say, then say nothing,” can prevent you from speaking your truth to a friend or spouse. Suppose your friend likes to gossip but you don’t. If you feel like you have to listen to her because of your limiting belief, you will feel trapped and unhappy with your friendship. If your limiting belief says, “family matters stay in the family,” but you need to talk to someone about a problem, you will feel like you have no options for resolving your issue.
Remember that often your beliefs are uconscious, meaning they control you without you knowing it. If you are feeling trapped, indecisive, or feeling guilty for your natural inclinations, look to a limiting belief as the culprit. Consider a client who runs in the morning for pure pleasure and joy, but has a limiting belief that “happiness must be earned.” She feels that she must pay for her fun by working extra hard after her run. She would not consider goofing off and having more fun that day if she ran that morning. Her belief gets in the way of an abundance of fun in her life because she is always looking to balance the scales. Limiting beliefs can also get in the way of your spontaneity.
Have you ever wanted to burst into song because you felt happy, or applaud in church because the sermon was so inspiring--but you held back because you knew your excitement would draw looks of disapproval? [your tribal belief says to be reverent and quiet at services]. Or did you ever want to tell your physician (or other person in authority) that his bedside manner stinks, and you want to be treated with the same respect you accord him but kept quiet instead? [your tribal belief says to respect and not question people in authority]. Lastly, have you ever wanted to spontaneously dance with your partner at an elegant restaurant because the pianist is playing your song and you are feeling romantic, but stopped yourself? These are examples of a cramped and caged spirit that becomes tentative about being authentic and spontaneous. This is what limiting tribal beliefs can do to your life: encourage you to apologize and refrain from expressing your excitement, honesty, and passion.
If so, ask yourself if it is possible that a limiting tribal belief is causing your distress. Are you upset or frustrated by something or someone? Does your life seem too hard or unfair? Are you feeling worn out? At the root of your feelings may be an old tribal belief. It’s time to explore those beliefs and rewrite them as necessary. [If you need some help, refer to Guidance 24/7].
[A limiting belief will cure you of a spontaneous and enthusiatic life].
BECOMING UNSTUCK REQUIRES HONESTY. ARE YOU BEING HONEST WITH YOURSELF?
Ask yourself: What am I avoiding? Getting unstuck in life can be easy if you are willing to find out what you know that you don’t want to know. When you need to leave a relationship, you know well in advance of your departure. You know when your job drains you and it’s time to leave, but you just don’t want to know it because it will require change. You think it is easier to avoid these truths and stay status quo, but it’s not. Avoiding your Truth (the voice of your spirit) takes a lot of time and energy. Eventually it will lead to feelings of apathy.
I know that ending relationships, changing jobs, and moving to a different state can be challenging, hard, and at times painful. But the longer you avoid what you already know, and it takes a lot of energy to ignore your Truth, the harder it becomes to wake up each morning with joy, passion, and enthusiasm for the day. Ignoring your spirit takes more effort than making some changes in your life. Remember that your spirit is tenaciously fighting for your highest good, even when the information seems to fly in the face of all logic, or feels too difficult to face.
[You cannot find your purpose when you are avoiding what you need to know].
ARE YOU LISTENING TO YOUR INTUITION AND ASKING FOR GUIDANCE?
Your guidance or knowing usually begins as a soft nudge and a whisper suggesting that life is not the best it can be. Thoughts like, “does working so hard really make me a good person?” or “I feel so tired after spending time with my friend, so why do hang on to the friendship?” and “My husband is a great guy, so why do I feel so lonely around him?” are often ignored. Sometimes for a long time. Steadfastly ignoring your guidance or intuition—that it’s time to make a change--will lead to you feeling restless, dissatisfied, resentful, or depressed. While the symptoms may not seem so severe, being bored and listless is not a healthy way to live. And then one morning you wake up and ask: “Is this all there is?”
I know you won’t always like what you hear, but at least be willing to hear it. Pay attention to your intuition. Ask for guidance. Pray for help. It is free, it’s easy, and it will point out the blocks to your happiness, and get you moving again.
[The answers you seek are available when you are willing to ask the real questions].
HOW OFTEN DO YOU FIND YOURSELF USING THESE PHRASES?
“I should…”
“I’m supposed to…”
“I must…”
When your life is filled with things you are supposed to do, rather than things you would like to do, it can lead to feeling unhappy, trapped, bored, depressed, and burned out. Make some new choices in your life. Take the time to listen to your needs and desires. It’s not always about what you have to do. Balance is the key. Take and make the time to do the things that make you happy: take a run, get a facial, spend the afternoon reading a book in bed. Do something that raises your vibration.
[Remember to do for yourself, as you do for others].
If you think that your choices will only influence your future, think again. Your choice to be honest, listen to your intuition, and take care of yourself will not only benefit you but the people you care about. Each of us has a profound ripple effect on those around us. When you are happy, you raise the vibration around you. When you are sullen or blame others for your lot in life, you can drag down an entire party. We are all connected on an energetic level. How do you want to influence those around you?
[Everyone is capable of making new choices anytime, anywhere]. --Christel
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