This month I’d like to share with you the answer to a question recently asked at a workshop.
A woman had been told by a healer that her father, who had passed on, needed her to forgive him so he could move out of the dark place he was in and move on to the light. She asked me if this was true, as she was conflicted and stressed with the burden of forgiving her father, when she wasn’t ready to do so.
As you know from reading my books, crossing over with someone is something I have been privileged to do many times with people at the moment of their death. I have also taken people there as they are dying to show them what awaits them. In every case this has immediately ended their agitation, moaning or grimacing and replaced it with a profound peacefulness and calm. They are no longer afraid to die once they experience the place they are going.
The place they are going appears to me as a room without walls or boundaries; it is beautiful beyond words and every time I go there I want more than anything to stay. Each time I go, I get pushed back because it is not yet my time. I am able to go with someone as far as the door jamb, but I cannot cross the threshold and enter the room. While I can see through to the light that is beyond, and experience seconds of the vibration within, I am not allowed anymore than that. The experience always leaves me in tears of joy, gratitude, and wondrous awe.
I am, however, only an escort. I cannot “push” a person through the doorway; the decision to enter this room must be their own. At that moment, when someone is at the door jamb, they have to make a choice to cross over and become part of the light, or stay in the lightless area outside the door. A person cannot be pushed or pulled in. It is a choice. It is a decision that each soul must make.
My most memorable experience with this room was with my grandmother. She was suffering from the ravages of cancer. I sent the family home because I knew this night would be her night. At 3am she opened her eyes and drew me in to experience her crossing. The light poured from her eyes and comforted me. I felt bathed in love, serenity and a presence so profound, it was almost too much for my heart to bear. As that light faded from her eyes, I knew my grandmother was gone, but a memory within my soul had been awakened. These moments change us permanently; I knew then that each of us has the option to choose light over darkness. But we must make a choice.
Unfortunately, not everyone chooses to enter the room. A person who is hanging on to vengeance (a desire to punish others for perceived wrongs) or victim energy will choose not to step over that threshold. Sadly, these souls do not find any rest and wander around quite literally in a no man’s land. They are as unhappy there as they were while alive. For me, to be so close to that room and not go in would be torture. For some people, however, holding onto their anger and vengeance is more important than being happy. Vengeance lives on, blaming others continues, and all of the low vibration attitudes and thoughts that strangled their life while alive, haunt them after death. The good news is that they can, at any time, choose to cross into the room at any time.
Your forgiveness or lack thereof has no effect on someone’s ability to enter the room. It is their soul’s choice. One day, each of us must make this choice for ourselves. Your lack of forgiveness does not hold someone back from the light. It is their anger, their victim hood, their vengeance, and their choice to stay in a low vibration that holds them back. Not you.
We are each responsible for our own soul. Many days, you will face this choice—to evolve to a higher vibration or not. When you look for revenge, for example, your vengeance keeps you tangled in a low vibration. Resentment, anger, and the need to be right, not only inhibit you from living a profoundly high vibration life now, but will profoundly influence your experience on the other side.
I will tell you that when a person lives a high vibration life, or is used to connecting with divine inspiration, or listening to intuition and following guidance, or has a sense of being cared for by a loving God or Higher Power, their transition is much easier. When I cross over with such a person, I barely see and begin to feel the bliss of that room before I notice the person is already within, and I am sent back once again.
We can all experience the high vibration bliss of that room by making important choices today.
--Christel
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