In “Diary of a Medical Intuitive,” I talk about some of the patterns that can predispose a woman to have breast cancer. One of these patterns is trying to keep the family together at all costs. This can be a blood family, a community, a circle of women friends, workers in an office, the neighbors, or any group that feels like family. Often this is a group that might not stay connected without this woman acting as the hub of the wheel. Such a woman feels responsible for group’s togetherness and makes it her priority to help the group get along. She will sacrifice or compromise heavily to achieve the group’s happiness [so they stay together], as her expenditure of energy becomes unhealthy and profoundly draining to her life energy.
When I have told women with breast cancer that they are trying to keep the family or tribe together at all costs, I find a fair amount of opposition because their actions are often quite subtle. Often, these women believe they are simply being nice or doing the right thing, without any awareness of the toll it is taking on their energy system. I hear comments like, “no, that’s not me. I’m not like that. I don’t do that, I take care of myself. Yet, when I point out the particular actions a woman is doing, it’s like a light bulb going off in her head. Then I hear a very loud, “OOOOHHH. That IS me.” The great news is that once acknowledged, these patterns can be changed if one is motivated.
Another pattern I find in women with breast cancer is that they have a secret transgression for which they have not forgiven themselves. This secret is almost always blown way out of proportion until it becomes an overpowering “scarlet letter” upon their chest almost demanding punishment; it grows huge and becomes a heavy burden to carry. I have uncovered all kinds of secrets—from having an abortion, to not being a virgin on her wedding day but never telling her husband, to secretly loathing herself because she hates her own mother and feels like a horrible daughter. These secrets weigh heavily upon a woman’s heart with quiet but powerful self-recrimination. The prescription is straight forward: it’s time to share the secret, embrace forgiveness and begin healing.
Recognizing these precursors to breast cancer is the first step toward preventive medicine; changing these patterns and finding true self-forgiveness and compassion is essential to changing your energetic frequency to promote healing and optimal health. Remember that illness has a particular frequency and you don’t want to resonate with that frequency. If you are concerned about preventing breast cancer or are working to heal it, please don’t dismiss the idea that you are the glue that holds your people together. I have never failed to find this energy in a woman with breast cancer. Think outside the box of the traditional family unit and find where you are the emotional glue for a group that depends on you to stay cohesive. To change this pattern, you will no doubt have to change some limiting tribal beliefs, but you can get a lot of help with that from “Sacred Choices.”
Recently, one of these patterns was featured on the cover of the August 25th issue of People Magazine which was a bittersweet experience for me. The cover shows Elizabeth Edwards with a glaring headline: “Family and friends share how Elizabeth is coping with her ‘anguish’ in the wake of her husband’s affair—and her determination to keep the family together.” According to the article, she will continue to be the glue that holds her family together, and unfortunately that choice will not promote healing. Our prayers go out to her and her family as she battles breast cancer.
It’s time to step up to plate and take an honest look at your life. Anything you can do to stay healthy or become healthy is worth your time and effort. I’ve put the information out there; now it’s up to you to do something with it.
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